........emotions .......memories ......sentiments .........friends ........end ........... new beginnings........
If you google inside your heart about the days when your graduation was just weeks away, these are the words you will find prominently everywhere.It is the most bizarre moment of your life. There are things that are gonna end for ever, lot of things that are being left behind but at the same time you are heading into a new phase of life, to a bright future and towards your goals. To be happy or to be sad ?? ... a difficult question and probably no answer.
I feel this is the most memorable feeling that you might remember throughout your life.This time comes with a flashback of all your memories... You tend to remember your old friends, your school and schoolmates, your childhood friends, and most of all your recent college friends and activities, right from the day you entered the college. The way you made friends, the way your relationships with people changed and the way you ended up spending 4 or 5 years of your life with these bunch of people hanging around you. Your friend circle feels like a family and you remember every moment with them....... Your little fights, your trips and outings, your long 'panchayat' sessions, college politics, your studies together (...if you ever did that :D) and many more.
All these moments, though sounds very normal, becomes more than pleasing for you to remember them again and again. Suddenly the term 'friendship' starts shaping into a definition by itself and start looking more important than ever before. During these times you tend to clear out all the misunderstandings and mend all relations that went bad; forgive and forget becomes your policy (...maybe not for all cases ;) ). It feels good to know that people you think wouldn't have cared about what you do, also tend to care about you and think good about you. A friendly invitation sometimes form one of your so called enemy to clear out differences or a discussion with someone to clarify his doubts about your actions; these all seems justified and good. A close friend sometimes disappoint you by not being there with you, or some idiots who really don't matter to you, try to show their disappointment towards you; but who cares...
This is the time when you don't want to leave the time behind and move on but you want to stick to it and relive the old moments. An old picture, a video, an old dialogue, everything feels so emotional and pleasing that even a frigid person turns sentimental. All the minor differences look small and irrelevant; and the willingness to relive the past takes over all of your feelings.
That is the beauty of friendship and the last days with them......and the end to this post with poor humor ( PJ) I give a grand salute to all my 'friends' and their 'ships' that will never sink because this is FRIEND-SHIP :-)
' Men vs Women ' - who is the winner ...
This is a topic of universal interest for nearly every individual and can be endlessly debated on. But do you think any girl will accept that they are weak in XYZ and will any boy agree that he is weak in some other XYZ; hell NO!!! These seeds must have been sown by 'Adam and Eve' themselves. But lets look at some things that might be interesting to you all and might give the endless debate some direction....!!!!Warning!!!! "some of the points might look prejudiced to girls"...comm'on after all I am a guy :-)
Lets start with something very basic information - You should know that Men and women are not equal...wait !!! I am not being sexist here, but its true with respect to human brain. And I did not say who is superior yet, so you can read further... :-)
Just imagine the comments like ''girls talk too much'' or ''maths and physics are not for girls'' or ''girls are more emotional'' etc etc. Do you really believe its just a coincidence throughout the world ...such a generalized coincidence ??...Definitely not...Hope this should create a reasonable doubt. Whatever is generalized has to have some kind of exceptions, but that doesn't mean that exception can be generalized. So don't tell me you are a girl and and you topped your class in boards or in maths or so on...( I too stood second to a girl in my 10th :D )
The factual difference goes like this - White Matter and Gray Matter !!! - (this is not a racist comment about black or white) Men actually have more Gray Matter and Women have more of the White Matter. That must explain why guys have darker thoughts then girls ;-)...just kidding !!! Gray matter is composed of the active neurons, responsible for thinking; analyzing, solving, etc and the white part is more of the connectors between neurons; responsible for signal transmission, involuntary functions and emotional expression. This should explain a lot.
Now hear what the studies say,
Boys are good at maths, physics and basically analytical stuff which surprisingly explains why are there more guys than girls in IIT or IIM or engineering.
Girls are good at vocab, verbal and communication skills, this explains why are they better in show anchoring, news reporting, history teaching :P, public speaking etc etc.
The girls are better in memory,quicker in decision making; but guys are better off in analyzing and visio-spatial abilities.
The average size of a male brain is larger than a female one. This doesn't quantify the intelligence level but it can be assumed that general mental abilities of male should be more (as it has more active neurons).
Myth-busting time: -
Girls like pink, dolls, kitchen sets, whereas guys like blue/black, toy truck, sports kits. Its not what their brain signals out. It is how their parents treat them. Pink from day 1 would make you automatically like it as you grow up, and so on...This is prejudice of the society, blindly followed.
Girls and boys perform fairly well in school time, so all these arguments are wrong !!! ... Good attempt ... but the difference is just masked during teenage because Girls mature faster than boys, so they can no doubt match the guys in mental ability. But still the number of boys near high scores is higher.
Women are better and safer drivers. NO they are not. Slow driving is not better driving. They are safer for the obvious reason, they do not drive fast; so they have lesser chances of accident. Guys are more rash in their driving because they have better visio-spatial abilities, meaning better visual perception and precision for moving objects, which make them comfortable to do so (call it a mental disorder if you want!!!).
I guess that would be enough for both the sides to change their beliefs...signing off again Dr D.
Lets start with something very basic information - You should know that Men and women are not equal...wait !!! I am not being sexist here, but its true with respect to human brain. And I did not say who is superior yet, so you can read further... :-)
Just imagine the comments like ''girls talk too much'' or ''maths and physics are not for girls'' or ''girls are more emotional'' etc etc. Do you really believe its just a coincidence throughout the world ...such a generalized coincidence ??...Definitely not...Hope this should create a reasonable doubt. Whatever is generalized has to have some kind of exceptions, but that doesn't mean that exception can be generalized. So don't tell me you are a girl and and you topped your class in boards or in maths or so on...( I too stood second to a girl in my 10th :D )
The factual difference goes like this - White Matter and Gray Matter !!! - (this is not a racist comment about black or white) Men actually have more Gray Matter and Women have more of the White Matter. That must explain why guys have darker thoughts then girls ;-)...just kidding !!! Gray matter is composed of the active neurons, responsible for thinking; analyzing, solving, etc and the white part is more of the connectors between neurons; responsible for signal transmission, involuntary functions and emotional expression. This should explain a lot.
Now hear what the studies say,
Boys are good at maths, physics and basically analytical stuff which surprisingly explains why are there more guys than girls in IIT or IIM or engineering.
Girls are good at vocab, verbal and communication skills, this explains why are they better in show anchoring, news reporting, history teaching :P, public speaking etc etc.
The girls are better in memory,quicker in decision making; but guys are better off in analyzing and visio-spatial abilities.
The average size of a male brain is larger than a female one. This doesn't quantify the intelligence level but it can be assumed that general mental abilities of male should be more (as it has more active neurons).
Myth-busting time: -
Girls like pink, dolls, kitchen sets, whereas guys like blue/black, toy truck, sports kits. Its not what their brain signals out. It is how their parents treat them. Pink from day 1 would make you automatically like it as you grow up, and so on...This is prejudice of the society, blindly followed.
Girls and boys perform fairly well in school time, so all these arguments are wrong !!! ... Good attempt ... but the difference is just masked during teenage because Girls mature faster than boys, so they can no doubt match the guys in mental ability. But still the number of boys near high scores is higher.
Women are better and safer drivers. NO they are not. Slow driving is not better driving. They are safer for the obvious reason, they do not drive fast; so they have lesser chances of accident. Guys are more rash in their driving because they have better visio-spatial abilities, meaning better visual perception and precision for moving objects, which make them comfortable to do so (call it a mental disorder if you want!!!).
I guess that would be enough for both the sides to change their beliefs...signing off again Dr D.
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